The season of family gatherings, kissing under the mistletoe, and NYE parties can be burdensome if you’re trying to mend a broken heart. Here are a few tips on how to get through the holidays post-breakup:

Talk about it. It can be difficult to open up about a breakup. You might feel embarrassed about what happened or ashamed at how it ended. It might be painful, but talking about it might be the best therapy. Accepting love and support from the people around you can go a long way in helping your heart heal.

The key to talking about a break up is doing it with someone you trust and who you know cares for your well-being. Some people won’t have your best interest at heart when asking about your ex and the breakup. You reserve the right to say “I don’t want to talk about it.” If you think someone is asking for details just because they’re intrusive, by no means do you have to indulge them. Kindly tell them you don’t want to discuss it, and move on.

If you would rather not talk about it with family or friends, consider reaching out for help from a therapist. Getting over someone can be difficult to do on your own, and a therapist can give you tips and will be there to fully listen.

Appreciate your time. This year, you don’t have to worry about getting to your ex’s side for gatherings. Holiday travel can be stressful, especially if you and your partner have family that don’t live in the same town. This year, you can focus on your family and yourself. What you do with that extra time is up to you: head to your hometown early, make Christmas candy, get your shopping done, or make some hot cocoa and just relax.

Put yourself first. Take the money you would have spent on your ex and spend it on yourself. Pamper yourself with a spa visit, buy yourself tickets to a concert or sporting event, or go out to a nice dinner with your best friend.

You might be tempted to eat whatever you want or stop exercising while you recover from a breakup, but it’s important that you don’t. The foods you eat and the exercise you do nourish your body. Put yourself first by maintaining a healthy lifestyle and sleep schedule.

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